Delhi's Young Men Speak Out on Gender Equality - 16 September
INTRODUCTION
The 2nd MenEngage Global Symposium 2014 – Men and Boys for Gender Justice, to be held in New Delhi from November 10-13 is bringing together 900 people from about 70 countries to express the need for men to speak up and partner for gender justice. Organised by MenEngage Global, an alliance of over 400 partners, the Global Symposium has expanded to become a movement for involving men and boys in gender equality. Taking part in the symposium and widening the discourse by their insights are field level activists, UN organisations, NGOs, civil society members including artists, poets, photographers, film makers, ordinary citizens and most importantly, the youth. The issues of masculinity, gender equality and ending violence against women are also being highlighted by the One Billion Rising (OBR) campaign. Collaborating on the central idea of the urgent need to understand masculinities in different contexts, the MenEngage Global Symposium and OBR 2015 have decided to come together on a common platform to demonstrate that gender equality can be achieved if men and women both engage with the issue. Both campaigns are unfurling simultaneously not only in Delhi but in many other parts of India, countries in South Asia as well as across the globe.
CONTEXT
The Global Symposium is a milestone not only for those involved with the issue but for the people of Delhi to redefine male responsibility, male engagement and male involvement. The event will enable young people from diverse backgrounds to share their experiences, confusions, uncertainties, struggles, peer pressure, self discovery, successes and alliances and discuss and discover ways of establishing a more gender equitable environment. The Symposium is an opportunity for the City and its young people to reflect, give expression to their agency within their mohalla, campuses, hang-out places, among their peers and continue their search for a new paradigm for male engagement as friends, partners, caring people and through this, building quiet confidence and establish camaraderie that goes beyond age, sex, creed, caste, religion, etc.
The formal launch of the Symposium showcases how this event is a continuation of the journey for a diverse set of stakeholders and also provide opportunity to the youth to focus on the role of men in engaging with gender equality.
FORMAL LAUNCH OF THE SYMPOSIUM
Bijayalaxmi Nanda, One Billion Rising
Bijayalaxmi welcomed all the participants and reiterated the need of visiting and rediscovering the meaning of masculinities and the areas of our life it affects. Bijayalaxmi retirated that this is both a challenging and opportune time for everytime. Remembering the first One Billion Rising that was launched in 2012, Bijayalaxmi recounted the journey of the campaign. The women’s struggle for empowerment is a shared movement between men and women and all genders. Women’s movement has always been advocating a partnership with men to establish an equitable society. The engagement with men and boys is not new. OBR has brought a lot of hope in the period after the December 16th rape. While Delhi was being called the rape capital of India, it also arose as the centre of protests against violence. OBR rose in India at a time when there was anger but several organisations reinforced the view that justice cannot be retributive and punitive. We are conscious of impunity. We cannot reduce men to one homogenous group and more importantly, we cannot take recourse to violence while trying to end other forms of violence. Several organisations along with CHSJ, were among the partners of OBR who since the beginning have tried to talk about justice and the need to involve men in the wider struggle.
Abhijit Das, Director, CHSJ
Welcoming the guests, Dr. Abhijit Das said that the global symposium is not merely an event or conference but is the beginning of a long and fruitful association with the women’s movement in India and it is therefore momentous that the Symposium is partnering with the One Billon Rising campaign. Dr. Das asked why men and boys should be involved in the discussions on gender only in closed rooms and conferences. We wanted to take these discussions to the farthest corners and to the places where men are. The December 16th rape case in Delhi was horrific and though it was just one in a series, it has made us look within and question whether violence is something that happens out there and we are happy to read about it at a distance in the newspaper. This is the time for men to reflect and question why those men who do not support violence are often silent and thereby end up not rising in opposition against violence. This symposium is a time for the men to let their collective voices rise in solidarity against violence against women and gender discrimination.
Message by Kamla Bhasin, SANGAT South Asia, One Billion Rising
EXPLORING PRINCIPLES OF CHANGE
Sharing by Youth on Men Standing up to be CountedRupa's journey- Acid Attack Survivor
Rupa is from Uttar Pradesh. Her step mother threw acid on her. She did not like Rupa and wanted her to live like a servant. Her own family also did not support her, her father did not help her. It was her uncle who finally helped with the medical treatment. Rupa learnt about Stop Acid Attacks and they gave her the courage and hope to fight for her rights. Rupa is now independent, is running her own fashion designing shop. She learnt tailoring and this has given her the confidence to be self reliant and help other people. Rupa asked how long women should bear the violence in complete silence.
Ashish
Ashish stated that there is need to look at masculinity, violence and power and reflect on these terms again. Violence can take many forms. Masculinity can also take several forms. Masculinity is often understood as toughness, power, strength and violence. Reflections of masculinity in popular culture and films are also aggressive- actors proclaim on stage that real men do not feel pain. In rural communities also, this is reflected in the limited spaces available to men for expressing their feelings. Fathers cannot hold their children in their lap, cannot talk to their wives in front of others.
The problem of violence has to be dealt with in totality. The act of violence is just one event- where some people are perpetrators. However, the mindset which permits and accepts such actions and violence must be questioned and it is this mindset that we have to break. We have to talk about masculinity in the villages. When a woman is successful and is able to fight her battles, she is often praised as being masculine- this trend must be opposed. Strong women should be celebrated- they do not become masculine by being strong. Therefore, when we get together, we must also reflect on the deeper underlying issues.
Chand- Youth Group of Jamia
Chand, representing the youth group of Jamia asked what is masculinity- is it just being able to verbally abuse, to hit, to rape? These were questions that used to trouble Chand while he was growing up. Some teachers used to come to their community to train girls and teach them about gender. Chand approached the teacher and told her that he wanted to be part of the group. The teacher encouraged him. He learnt about discrimination and equality and was impacted by what he learnt. One of his neighbour used to drink a lot and would beat his wife and children. We used to tell him that he should not beat his wife. He thought that he was right and should not be questioned- he was being a man! We have to talk to men that masculinity is not only power.
Avik Roy, team of young people engaging with inmates of juvenile homes
Avik never questioned his own upbringing or class privileges, while being aware of gender discrimination and inequality in general. When the separate section for women in the delhi metro was reserved, Avik questioned this move with his friends. Avik stressed the need to bring the symposium out of the domain of closed room discussions and to take it to those who are impacted by it in their lives. Talking about the juveniles from the slums of Delhi, Avik stated that these children are only reached out to when they are already within the criminal justice system. Violence for them is a part of their survival. This symposium should reach out to people who are on the fringes.
Bharat , Hamad- Youth Group of Joshi and Geeta Colony
Violence is not just against women but there is also need to recognize the violence against women and the bullying against children.
Manowar Hussain- First Year School of Architecture
Upon joining college, I met people who made me understand about gender. The misunderstanding between girls and boys is also a gender construct. Boys often pass comments on the way girls dress. We have to take into account economic forces also. Often unemployed youth express their anger in forms of severe violence. Similarly, alcohol addiction is also something that leads to violence.
Narrottam Singh, Auto Driver
Through trainings by the Manas Foundation, Narrottan understood the problems that women in general face and in particular the problems being faced by women commuters. He has taken steps to ensure that his auto complied with all the measures prescribed by the police and is committed to uphold gender equality.
Navdeep Sharma- Freelance Documentary Filmmaker
Moving to Delhi from a smaller city, forced Navdeep to think about gender, to question gender stereotypes. The city also allows people to create their own version of masculinity. While smaller towns have started pushing gender equality and even have pride marches, Delhi provides a good platform to take these discussions forward.
Shaman
The gender stereotypes prevail in all walks of life. Even in our daily lives we end up reinforcing these. We argue that if you think like a man you are therefore more objective.
Kailash (Jagori)
Men run the house- all our depictions in culture and images of our gods and goddesses also show our goddesses standing at the feet of the gods. The fight for gender equality is not for women, it is for all.
Abhishek Choudhary
Men over the course of many years are either seen as the perpetrators, audience or the protectors. We have to move men beyond these stereotypical positions. Rape is not only against women, there needs to be detailed discussion about transgender rape, rape against men and boys. We need to move beyond the internet spaces, the aim of our campaign should not be to get a 1000 likes. We need to take these discussions to the people on the street and in the communities.
Summing up these testimonials and sharings, Bijayalaxmi Nanda stated that there is an intersectionality of generations across genders, stating that they are standing and rising in solidarity for gender equality.
Sharing by Partners on Building Enabling Environment
Shah Lora Prabhu, CEQUIN
The entire concern in the women’s movement has been that often in conferences on gender, men are missing. This meeting and the symposium in November are going to provide an opportunity to engage with men. CEQUIN is thrilled to be part of this symposium. Even if we look at the purely instrumental approach, Gender equality is important to ensure women’s empowerment, livelihood, education and health. While 16th December was a momentous event and we all came out against the rape and violence, we must move beyond the discussion of rape and start question trafficking of women, dowry, education, access to healthcare and other forms of inequalities. CEQUIN has been trying to shift the focus from pepper sprays and self-defense classes for women to a rights based approach which doesn’t put the onus of violence on women themselves. CEQUIN has been using sports to talk about women’s empowerment. When women are empowered, it is a win-win situation for both men and women.
Prof. Bulbul Dhar James- Jamia Milia Islamia
The concept of breaking the culture of silence has emerged in the meeting and that should be taken forward in the symposium. Jamia has been engaging its youth to work on gender equality. Various departments of Jamia have come together to strengthen the work. Violence is the cross cutting theme today. The experiences today show that it does not matter where you come from and which class, caste, religion or gender you belong to, the stories of violence are being shared. A lot of women are fighting hard battles. By sharing these stories we are connecting people and are reaching out to people. Speaking about the floods in Kashmir, there is need to work with disaster management strategies, the issues raised by any such natural disaster are many. Climate change is also a complex issue that needs more detailed analysis.
Prof. I.S. Bakshi- Principal, Dayal Singh College
Talking about Dayal Singh College, Delhi University, Prof. Bakshi stated that the college has around 5500 students out of which approximately 50% are girls. Prof Bakshi stated that any opinion making needs to be first done in the classrooms. There is need to treat men and women equally. Women do not require any special treatment, there needs to be equal treatment. The college has taken steps to ensure that women have a safe environment and there are women in various positions in the different posts in the college- from cleaners to counselors. There are steps to monitor the use of acid in laboratories in the college. Anti sexual harassment cells are also aware of the various conditions under which there may be a complaint and how to deal with these. There is also an effort to involve the parents and especially the fathers, when the students are in any crises. Prof. Bakshi reiterated the need for making gender equality a part of the semester curriculum, and at least compulsory in the graduate level. There is need to teach ourselves and the students that we need to honour the opinions of our mothers and sisters and drop the act of only following directions of the father and brother or for that matter the cult of the man of the family directing the women and controlling them. We need to build a society that identifies equality as a compulsory social value.
Monica Kumar– Manas Foundation
Monica, mental health practitioner asked what is the cause of violence? This is a very important question in fighting gender based violence or finding a solution for gender inequity. Manas works not only with the victims but also the perpetrator of violence. Manas has combined mental health in their work on gender justice. Monica stated that to change the image of Delhi we have to change the image of the street of Delhi so we reached out to police and also the autowallahs. Regarding the issue of the safety of women, most women commute in autos so the autowallah became the focus group. Manas has conducted trainings of 1 lakh autowallahs. There is awareness of gender based violence and also give them handouts and kits. The autowallahs are made accountable to this issue of violence. We also give them stickers with messages for respecting women and to ensure safety of women. Manas has also started a dialogue between women passengers and the driver. This has helped bridge the gap and the fear that women commuters have in mind. Manas has embarked on a journey that combines mental health and gender justice.
Sharing by Stakeholders on Commitment to Gender JusticeShailaja Chandra- Former Chief Secretary, Delhi
Shailaja Chandra stated that three developments can be seen- gender and gender justice is coming on the platform and is being discussed. It has credibility in the eyes of organisations- it draws attention, money and media. Lastly, NGOs and CSOs have found time and inclination to address these issues. We should be happy that we have reached this stage of evolution. However, even now the birth of the girl child is not seen as a celebration even in the most educated of homes. People outwardly proclaim happiness over the girl child but within the homes, there is discussion of dowry and how much will have to be given as jewelry and cash. Violence against women is the final stage which has to be confronted and faced. Long before that there is discrimination. Girls are conditioned that they have to ask for permission for anything they do. When the Prime Minister spoke about this on Independence Day speech, it was also a turning point. Sensitizing about gender, colour and race has to start from childhood and not when people are in colleges or working. Habits can be changed and new practices can be developed. Children today tell their parents they do not want to use fire crackers during Diwali and chemical dyes during holi- these habits were discouraged by eco- clubs in schools. Discriminatory social institutions are what has to be changed and can be done.
We don’t have purdah in all of India, we do not have Female Genital Mutilation. Let us rejoice in these. However, let us also try to understand why women, even after years of marriage and child bearing, still need permission to carry out decisions in their homes. Most perpetrators of violence in Delhi are children in the age group of 14-18, who come in search of a job and are misused by employers and contractors who make them work 18 hours. In the absence of stringent laws, labour laws and rampant availability of alcohol and drugs, they are often pushed into crime. Now is the time to demand for change. Today politicians know that people are demanding change and they are interested in making these changes.
Amit Das, Pradhan, Rajasthani Camp
Worked with the bank to get accounts opened for members of the community. In a population of 4000, there were only 20 public toilets. Women were worst sufferers in this. The local politicians closed the few toilets that existed. Amit rallied people to get together to speak to each other and the local authorities and they worked to get the toilets opened. For the first time, women came out to vote in the local elections. Amit Das won the election and women supported him. One of the things that he achieved after the elections was to open more toilets for women. There is some fund available with the locally elected body which can be disbursed for widowed women. However, there are other women who are not widows but married at age of 16-17, whose husbands drink or have abandoned them without any source of income. The community has again come together to generate resources and goods for them. The Delhi Government had started a scheme where Rs.600/- were given to women. Amit told these women, most of who are working as daily maids, that with this amount, one household time is reduced. The woman should spend this time with their children.
AR Nanda- former Health Secretary, GOI and former Director, PFI
There is a difference between engagement and involvement. Engagement comes from the heart and is sustained. Involvement is in bits and pieces. In the ministry, on the issues of family planning, the female involvement in family planning was advocated. The service providers and law makers think that it is easier to involve women. Once during the 1970s men were involved but this led to the cases of vasectomy. The problem with involving only women is that in the context of gender, policy making becomes more masculinised. There is too much masculinity in policy making and implementation. How do we advocate with policy making bodies- politicians and bureaucrats etc., to bring in the issue of gender and the issue of entangling the policy environment with masculinity. Although there are efforts to do this, it is saddled with masculinity. As citizens we have to be the watch dogs and constant vigilance is required by the CSOs. The Two Child Norm still rampant. On the issue of population, it is argued that we are increasing one Australia each year. CHSJ and many other NGOs have been trying to work on such gender insensitive policies. The adverse sex ratio in birth is linked to a problematic construction of gender.
Satish Kumar Singh, Additional Director, CHSJ
Satish spoke about FEM (Forum to Engage Men), MASVAW (Men’s Action for Stopping Violence Against Women) and MenEngage. We are working to understand why some men change, how they change- what are the processes of change and what are the challenges that they face during the change. Men used to fear that if there is gender equality, they will lose their power and women will control them. But this myth has been dispelled. The men who have changed have in fact seen a positive impact of this change. They have developed deeper relations with the women- mothers, wives, daughters, etc. If men change individually, they are ridiculed, but when men form groups and take responsibility, they establish a new social order and peer group. Brothers have taught their sisters to ride bicycles. Earlier when girls reported incidents of sexual harassment, the usual response was to curtail their mobility. It is here that brother and friends took a decision and supported their sisters.
Men do not get up and rape one day. Men also test their boundaries and keep seeing how much they will get away with. Men will change if men have a secure environment to reflect and analyse their own actions. We have collected 500 stories from various states in India. When men improve their lives, women lives also change. We actively advocate that men do not need to do anything for the benefit of women; they need to work for themselves.
Sunita Menon- Breakthrough
Through the Bell Bajao Campaign, Breaththrough has worked with the issues of gender equality and violence against women for many years. When Breakthrough collaborated on the Mann Ke Manjeere project, the predominant opinion was that men were violators and perpetrators. Now we also see them as equal partners. Breakthrough has started working towards ensuring that men and women come together on gender justice. This issue is now being advocated by many people- several celebrities are speaking up about this. We should channelize their voices also. Breakthrough also does intensive workshops with girls and boys. In one such workshop, when boys said that teasing is just a hobby or something they get fun out of, many girls broke down and shared their experiences of how their mobility was curtailed or their education stopped because of the teasing. This made boys reflect the consequences of their actions. This kind of sharing is also instrumental in leading to change.
Abhijit Das, summing up the session stated that the panel has raised the task that we cannot only raise these discussions in seminars, we have to take these to the larger community and we have to begin at home. Dr. Das formally launched the symposium and invited everyone to be part of the journey.
PRESS CONFERENCE
Addressing the Press Conference were Shailaja Chandra, A.R.Nanda, Abhijit Das, Abhishek Choudhary, Chand, Bijayalaxmi Nanda and Monica Kumar
Abhijit Das stated that over 900 participants from 70 countries will be present during the symposium. Various stakeholders will be involved in various stages, including CSO’s, colleges, universities, community members, auto drivers and most importantly, the public from Delhi will be part of this symposium. Starting from now till November, several activities will be held throughout Delhi, India and the rest of the world.
Chand stated that the work that we are doing in the symposium and for gender, should be shared with our family members. Our fathers should also know that their sons are aware and can even file a complaint if they commit violence against our mothers and sisters. We should feel that we can do something for our family, locality, colony and society.
Bijayalaxmi stated that OBR is a global campaign which rose on the call of Eve Ensler and is being led in India by Kamla Bhasin. On the 14th Februrary, we rise for love and justice. The vision of MenEngage is unique as men are not seen as just perpetrators but also as partners of women in the fight for justice. Joining this movement will be colleges and universities, auto drivers and also the communities. We must raise our voices such that the media is also energized to cover this. The OBR needs volunteers to take forward its call. The intersections are evident in OBR- disabilities, sexualities, caste, gender, etc., are all part of this. From OBR and MenEngage this is a joint coalition and the culmination on 14th February 2015 will be held and we would like to invite the press.
Abhishek reiterated the need for the youth to be part of this. Youth happens to be the most important target group for all activism. Media must support youth ventures and the voices of youth need to b given prominence. Media needs to validate the various youth ventures.
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The 2nd MenEngage Global Symposium 2014 – Men and Boys for Gender Justice, to be held in New Delhi from November 10-13 is bringing together 900 people from about 70 countries to express the need for men to speak up and partner for gender justice. Organised by MenEngage Global, an alliance of over 400 partners, the Global Symposium has expanded to become a movement for involving men and boys in gender equality. Taking part in the symposium and widening the discourse by their insights are field level activists, UN organisations, NGOs, civil society members including artists, poets, photographers, film makers, ordinary citizens and most importantly, the youth. The issues of masculinity, gender equality and ending violence against women are also being highlighted by the One Billion Rising (OBR) campaign. Collaborating on the central idea of the urgent need to understand masculinities in different contexts, the MenEngage Global Symposium and OBR 2015 have decided to come together on a common platform to demonstrate that gender equality can be achieved if men and women both engage with the issue. Both campaigns are unfurling simultaneously not only in Delhi but in many other parts of India, countries in South Asia as well as across the globe.
CONTEXT
The Global Symposium is a milestone not only for those involved with the issue but for the people of Delhi to redefine male responsibility, male engagement and male involvement. The event will enable young people from diverse backgrounds to share their experiences, confusions, uncertainties, struggles, peer pressure, self discovery, successes and alliances and discuss and discover ways of establishing a more gender equitable environment. The Symposium is an opportunity for the City and its young people to reflect, give expression to their agency within their mohalla, campuses, hang-out places, among their peers and continue their search for a new paradigm for male engagement as friends, partners, caring people and through this, building quiet confidence and establish camaraderie that goes beyond age, sex, creed, caste, religion, etc.
The formal launch of the Symposium showcases how this event is a continuation of the journey for a diverse set of stakeholders and also provide opportunity to the youth to focus on the role of men in engaging with gender equality.
FORMAL LAUNCH OF THE SYMPOSIUM
Bijayalaxmi Nanda, One Billion Rising
Bijayalaxmi welcomed all the participants and reiterated the need of visiting and rediscovering the meaning of masculinities and the areas of our life it affects. Bijayalaxmi retirated that this is both a challenging and opportune time for everytime. Remembering the first One Billion Rising that was launched in 2012, Bijayalaxmi recounted the journey of the campaign. The women’s struggle for empowerment is a shared movement between men and women and all genders. Women’s movement has always been advocating a partnership with men to establish an equitable society. The engagement with men and boys is not new. OBR has brought a lot of hope in the period after the December 16th rape. While Delhi was being called the rape capital of India, it also arose as the centre of protests against violence. OBR rose in India at a time when there was anger but several organisations reinforced the view that justice cannot be retributive and punitive. We are conscious of impunity. We cannot reduce men to one homogenous group and more importantly, we cannot take recourse to violence while trying to end other forms of violence. Several organisations along with CHSJ, were among the partners of OBR who since the beginning have tried to talk about justice and the need to involve men in the wider struggle.
Abhijit Das, Director, CHSJ
Welcoming the guests, Dr. Abhijit Das said that the global symposium is not merely an event or conference but is the beginning of a long and fruitful association with the women’s movement in India and it is therefore momentous that the Symposium is partnering with the One Billon Rising campaign. Dr. Das asked why men and boys should be involved in the discussions on gender only in closed rooms and conferences. We wanted to take these discussions to the farthest corners and to the places where men are. The December 16th rape case in Delhi was horrific and though it was just one in a series, it has made us look within and question whether violence is something that happens out there and we are happy to read about it at a distance in the newspaper. This is the time for men to reflect and question why those men who do not support violence are often silent and thereby end up not rising in opposition against violence. This symposium is a time for the men to let their collective voices rise in solidarity against violence against women and gender discrimination.
Message by Kamla Bhasin, SANGAT South Asia, One Billion Rising
EXPLORING PRINCIPLES OF CHANGE
Sharing by Youth on Men Standing up to be CountedRupa's journey- Acid Attack Survivor
Rupa is from Uttar Pradesh. Her step mother threw acid on her. She did not like Rupa and wanted her to live like a servant. Her own family also did not support her, her father did not help her. It was her uncle who finally helped with the medical treatment. Rupa learnt about Stop Acid Attacks and they gave her the courage and hope to fight for her rights. Rupa is now independent, is running her own fashion designing shop. She learnt tailoring and this has given her the confidence to be self reliant and help other people. Rupa asked how long women should bear the violence in complete silence.
Ashish
Ashish stated that there is need to look at masculinity, violence and power and reflect on these terms again. Violence can take many forms. Masculinity can also take several forms. Masculinity is often understood as toughness, power, strength and violence. Reflections of masculinity in popular culture and films are also aggressive- actors proclaim on stage that real men do not feel pain. In rural communities also, this is reflected in the limited spaces available to men for expressing their feelings. Fathers cannot hold their children in their lap, cannot talk to their wives in front of others.
The problem of violence has to be dealt with in totality. The act of violence is just one event- where some people are perpetrators. However, the mindset which permits and accepts such actions and violence must be questioned and it is this mindset that we have to break. We have to talk about masculinity in the villages. When a woman is successful and is able to fight her battles, she is often praised as being masculine- this trend must be opposed. Strong women should be celebrated- they do not become masculine by being strong. Therefore, when we get together, we must also reflect on the deeper underlying issues.
Chand- Youth Group of Jamia
Chand, representing the youth group of Jamia asked what is masculinity- is it just being able to verbally abuse, to hit, to rape? These were questions that used to trouble Chand while he was growing up. Some teachers used to come to their community to train girls and teach them about gender. Chand approached the teacher and told her that he wanted to be part of the group. The teacher encouraged him. He learnt about discrimination and equality and was impacted by what he learnt. One of his neighbour used to drink a lot and would beat his wife and children. We used to tell him that he should not beat his wife. He thought that he was right and should not be questioned- he was being a man! We have to talk to men that masculinity is not only power.
Avik Roy, team of young people engaging with inmates of juvenile homes
Avik never questioned his own upbringing or class privileges, while being aware of gender discrimination and inequality in general. When the separate section for women in the delhi metro was reserved, Avik questioned this move with his friends. Avik stressed the need to bring the symposium out of the domain of closed room discussions and to take it to those who are impacted by it in their lives. Talking about the juveniles from the slums of Delhi, Avik stated that these children are only reached out to when they are already within the criminal justice system. Violence for them is a part of their survival. This symposium should reach out to people who are on the fringes.
Bharat , Hamad- Youth Group of Joshi and Geeta Colony
Violence is not just against women but there is also need to recognize the violence against women and the bullying against children.
Manowar Hussain- First Year School of Architecture
Upon joining college, I met people who made me understand about gender. The misunderstanding between girls and boys is also a gender construct. Boys often pass comments on the way girls dress. We have to take into account economic forces also. Often unemployed youth express their anger in forms of severe violence. Similarly, alcohol addiction is also something that leads to violence.
Narrottam Singh, Auto Driver
Through trainings by the Manas Foundation, Narrottan understood the problems that women in general face and in particular the problems being faced by women commuters. He has taken steps to ensure that his auto complied with all the measures prescribed by the police and is committed to uphold gender equality.
Navdeep Sharma- Freelance Documentary Filmmaker
Moving to Delhi from a smaller city, forced Navdeep to think about gender, to question gender stereotypes. The city also allows people to create their own version of masculinity. While smaller towns have started pushing gender equality and even have pride marches, Delhi provides a good platform to take these discussions forward.
Shaman
The gender stereotypes prevail in all walks of life. Even in our daily lives we end up reinforcing these. We argue that if you think like a man you are therefore more objective.
Kailash (Jagori)
Men run the house- all our depictions in culture and images of our gods and goddesses also show our goddesses standing at the feet of the gods. The fight for gender equality is not for women, it is for all.
Abhishek Choudhary
Men over the course of many years are either seen as the perpetrators, audience or the protectors. We have to move men beyond these stereotypical positions. Rape is not only against women, there needs to be detailed discussion about transgender rape, rape against men and boys. We need to move beyond the internet spaces, the aim of our campaign should not be to get a 1000 likes. We need to take these discussions to the people on the street and in the communities.
Summing up these testimonials and sharings, Bijayalaxmi Nanda stated that there is an intersectionality of generations across genders, stating that they are standing and rising in solidarity for gender equality.
Sharing by Partners on Building Enabling Environment
Shah Lora Prabhu, CEQUIN
The entire concern in the women’s movement has been that often in conferences on gender, men are missing. This meeting and the symposium in November are going to provide an opportunity to engage with men. CEQUIN is thrilled to be part of this symposium. Even if we look at the purely instrumental approach, Gender equality is important to ensure women’s empowerment, livelihood, education and health. While 16th December was a momentous event and we all came out against the rape and violence, we must move beyond the discussion of rape and start question trafficking of women, dowry, education, access to healthcare and other forms of inequalities. CEQUIN has been trying to shift the focus from pepper sprays and self-defense classes for women to a rights based approach which doesn’t put the onus of violence on women themselves. CEQUIN has been using sports to talk about women’s empowerment. When women are empowered, it is a win-win situation for both men and women.
Prof. Bulbul Dhar James- Jamia Milia Islamia
The concept of breaking the culture of silence has emerged in the meeting and that should be taken forward in the symposium. Jamia has been engaging its youth to work on gender equality. Various departments of Jamia have come together to strengthen the work. Violence is the cross cutting theme today. The experiences today show that it does not matter where you come from and which class, caste, religion or gender you belong to, the stories of violence are being shared. A lot of women are fighting hard battles. By sharing these stories we are connecting people and are reaching out to people. Speaking about the floods in Kashmir, there is need to work with disaster management strategies, the issues raised by any such natural disaster are many. Climate change is also a complex issue that needs more detailed analysis.
Prof. I.S. Bakshi- Principal, Dayal Singh College
Talking about Dayal Singh College, Delhi University, Prof. Bakshi stated that the college has around 5500 students out of which approximately 50% are girls. Prof Bakshi stated that any opinion making needs to be first done in the classrooms. There is need to treat men and women equally. Women do not require any special treatment, there needs to be equal treatment. The college has taken steps to ensure that women have a safe environment and there are women in various positions in the different posts in the college- from cleaners to counselors. There are steps to monitor the use of acid in laboratories in the college. Anti sexual harassment cells are also aware of the various conditions under which there may be a complaint and how to deal with these. There is also an effort to involve the parents and especially the fathers, when the students are in any crises. Prof. Bakshi reiterated the need for making gender equality a part of the semester curriculum, and at least compulsory in the graduate level. There is need to teach ourselves and the students that we need to honour the opinions of our mothers and sisters and drop the act of only following directions of the father and brother or for that matter the cult of the man of the family directing the women and controlling them. We need to build a society that identifies equality as a compulsory social value.
Monica Kumar– Manas Foundation
Monica, mental health practitioner asked what is the cause of violence? This is a very important question in fighting gender based violence or finding a solution for gender inequity. Manas works not only with the victims but also the perpetrator of violence. Manas has combined mental health in their work on gender justice. Monica stated that to change the image of Delhi we have to change the image of the street of Delhi so we reached out to police and also the autowallahs. Regarding the issue of the safety of women, most women commute in autos so the autowallah became the focus group. Manas has conducted trainings of 1 lakh autowallahs. There is awareness of gender based violence and also give them handouts and kits. The autowallahs are made accountable to this issue of violence. We also give them stickers with messages for respecting women and to ensure safety of women. Manas has also started a dialogue between women passengers and the driver. This has helped bridge the gap and the fear that women commuters have in mind. Manas has embarked on a journey that combines mental health and gender justice.
Sharing by Stakeholders on Commitment to Gender JusticeShailaja Chandra- Former Chief Secretary, Delhi
Shailaja Chandra stated that three developments can be seen- gender and gender justice is coming on the platform and is being discussed. It has credibility in the eyes of organisations- it draws attention, money and media. Lastly, NGOs and CSOs have found time and inclination to address these issues. We should be happy that we have reached this stage of evolution. However, even now the birth of the girl child is not seen as a celebration even in the most educated of homes. People outwardly proclaim happiness over the girl child but within the homes, there is discussion of dowry and how much will have to be given as jewelry and cash. Violence against women is the final stage which has to be confronted and faced. Long before that there is discrimination. Girls are conditioned that they have to ask for permission for anything they do. When the Prime Minister spoke about this on Independence Day speech, it was also a turning point. Sensitizing about gender, colour and race has to start from childhood and not when people are in colleges or working. Habits can be changed and new practices can be developed. Children today tell their parents they do not want to use fire crackers during Diwali and chemical dyes during holi- these habits were discouraged by eco- clubs in schools. Discriminatory social institutions are what has to be changed and can be done.
We don’t have purdah in all of India, we do not have Female Genital Mutilation. Let us rejoice in these. However, let us also try to understand why women, even after years of marriage and child bearing, still need permission to carry out decisions in their homes. Most perpetrators of violence in Delhi are children in the age group of 14-18, who come in search of a job and are misused by employers and contractors who make them work 18 hours. In the absence of stringent laws, labour laws and rampant availability of alcohol and drugs, they are often pushed into crime. Now is the time to demand for change. Today politicians know that people are demanding change and they are interested in making these changes.
Amit Das, Pradhan, Rajasthani Camp
Worked with the bank to get accounts opened for members of the community. In a population of 4000, there were only 20 public toilets. Women were worst sufferers in this. The local politicians closed the few toilets that existed. Amit rallied people to get together to speak to each other and the local authorities and they worked to get the toilets opened. For the first time, women came out to vote in the local elections. Amit Das won the election and women supported him. One of the things that he achieved after the elections was to open more toilets for women. There is some fund available with the locally elected body which can be disbursed for widowed women. However, there are other women who are not widows but married at age of 16-17, whose husbands drink or have abandoned them without any source of income. The community has again come together to generate resources and goods for them. The Delhi Government had started a scheme where Rs.600/- were given to women. Amit told these women, most of who are working as daily maids, that with this amount, one household time is reduced. The woman should spend this time with their children.
AR Nanda- former Health Secretary, GOI and former Director, PFI
There is a difference between engagement and involvement. Engagement comes from the heart and is sustained. Involvement is in bits and pieces. In the ministry, on the issues of family planning, the female involvement in family planning was advocated. The service providers and law makers think that it is easier to involve women. Once during the 1970s men were involved but this led to the cases of vasectomy. The problem with involving only women is that in the context of gender, policy making becomes more masculinised. There is too much masculinity in policy making and implementation. How do we advocate with policy making bodies- politicians and bureaucrats etc., to bring in the issue of gender and the issue of entangling the policy environment with masculinity. Although there are efforts to do this, it is saddled with masculinity. As citizens we have to be the watch dogs and constant vigilance is required by the CSOs. The Two Child Norm still rampant. On the issue of population, it is argued that we are increasing one Australia each year. CHSJ and many other NGOs have been trying to work on such gender insensitive policies. The adverse sex ratio in birth is linked to a problematic construction of gender.
Satish Kumar Singh, Additional Director, CHSJ
Satish spoke about FEM (Forum to Engage Men), MASVAW (Men’s Action for Stopping Violence Against Women) and MenEngage. We are working to understand why some men change, how they change- what are the processes of change and what are the challenges that they face during the change. Men used to fear that if there is gender equality, they will lose their power and women will control them. But this myth has been dispelled. The men who have changed have in fact seen a positive impact of this change. They have developed deeper relations with the women- mothers, wives, daughters, etc. If men change individually, they are ridiculed, but when men form groups and take responsibility, they establish a new social order and peer group. Brothers have taught their sisters to ride bicycles. Earlier when girls reported incidents of sexual harassment, the usual response was to curtail their mobility. It is here that brother and friends took a decision and supported their sisters.
Men do not get up and rape one day. Men also test their boundaries and keep seeing how much they will get away with. Men will change if men have a secure environment to reflect and analyse their own actions. We have collected 500 stories from various states in India. When men improve their lives, women lives also change. We actively advocate that men do not need to do anything for the benefit of women; they need to work for themselves.
Sunita Menon- Breakthrough
Through the Bell Bajao Campaign, Breaththrough has worked with the issues of gender equality and violence against women for many years. When Breakthrough collaborated on the Mann Ke Manjeere project, the predominant opinion was that men were violators and perpetrators. Now we also see them as equal partners. Breakthrough has started working towards ensuring that men and women come together on gender justice. This issue is now being advocated by many people- several celebrities are speaking up about this. We should channelize their voices also. Breakthrough also does intensive workshops with girls and boys. In one such workshop, when boys said that teasing is just a hobby or something they get fun out of, many girls broke down and shared their experiences of how their mobility was curtailed or their education stopped because of the teasing. This made boys reflect the consequences of their actions. This kind of sharing is also instrumental in leading to change.
Abhijit Das, summing up the session stated that the panel has raised the task that we cannot only raise these discussions in seminars, we have to take these to the larger community and we have to begin at home. Dr. Das formally launched the symposium and invited everyone to be part of the journey.
PRESS CONFERENCE
Addressing the Press Conference were Shailaja Chandra, A.R.Nanda, Abhijit Das, Abhishek Choudhary, Chand, Bijayalaxmi Nanda and Monica Kumar
Abhijit Das stated that over 900 participants from 70 countries will be present during the symposium. Various stakeholders will be involved in various stages, including CSO’s, colleges, universities, community members, auto drivers and most importantly, the public from Delhi will be part of this symposium. Starting from now till November, several activities will be held throughout Delhi, India and the rest of the world.
Chand stated that the work that we are doing in the symposium and for gender, should be shared with our family members. Our fathers should also know that their sons are aware and can even file a complaint if they commit violence against our mothers and sisters. We should feel that we can do something for our family, locality, colony and society.
Bijayalaxmi stated that OBR is a global campaign which rose on the call of Eve Ensler and is being led in India by Kamla Bhasin. On the 14th Februrary, we rise for love and justice. The vision of MenEngage is unique as men are not seen as just perpetrators but also as partners of women in the fight for justice. Joining this movement will be colleges and universities, auto drivers and also the communities. We must raise our voices such that the media is also energized to cover this. The OBR needs volunteers to take forward its call. The intersections are evident in OBR- disabilities, sexualities, caste, gender, etc., are all part of this. From OBR and MenEngage this is a joint coalition and the culmination on 14th February 2015 will be held and we would like to invite the press.
Abhishek reiterated the need for the youth to be part of this. Youth happens to be the most important target group for all activism. Media must support youth ventures and the voices of youth need to b given prominence. Media needs to validate the various youth ventures.
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